Preparing to work with me

How do I know if your 1:1 service is right for me?

First, let’s get on the same page about what I mean by narcissism. Please read this page.

PLEASE NOTE: I do NOT work with clients regarding narcissistic abuse between intimate partners, family members, divorce/separation involving children, or any situation involving law enforcement and the judicial system.

Which one fits your current situation?

  1. You want to know if you’re in a narcissistic relationship or that you suspect that you might be narcissistic. This situation does not require my coaching service. Please read the articles in my resources section as part of your research on the topic.

  2. You are aware you’re in a narcissistic relationship(s) with a family member (parent/sibling), friend, spiritual community or intimate (non-married and no kids) partner. You want to know what your options are moving forward and strategies for navigating tricky controlling behaviours. This is suitable for a one-off coaching session if you meet eligibility criteria (see below).

  3. You are aware you’re in a narcissistic dynamic with a workplace colleague(s) in healthcare or related industry. This/these relationships are affecting your work performance and threaten your professional goals. This is suitable for a 3hr coaching intensive if you meet eligibility criteria (see below).

  4. You have decided to exit a narcissistic relationship after trying to work to transform the situation with the other party and they have demonstrated an inability to meet you halfway. You’re looking for exit strategies that prevent further injury or harm, including who to add to your support team. This is suitable for a one-off coaching session or 3hr coaching intensive. Depending on the severity of the situation, we can customise an arrangement (ie. 2x 60min/month then monthly) for longer term change, monitoring and support if you meet eligibility criteria (see below).

  5. You are in the process of exiting or exited the narcissistic relationship and you’re having a hard time making a clean break because of the manipulation, threats and psychological distress. You have a support team of people you trust who have your back such as friends, family members, therapist/counsellor and you have employment/financial resources. You want strategies to monitor and sever the emotional and psycho-spiritual connection and effectively respond to re-grooming and hoovering tactics that prevent your release from the relationship. This is suitable for a one-off coaching session or customised monthly sessions if you meet eligibility criteria (see below).

You must be able to honestly answer YES to each point for eligibility to work together:

  1. You are working/have worked with a therapist to address some childhood patterns and family dynamics that have shaped your experiences in life or you are prepared to learn more about how your personal family dynamics influenced your relating and communication approaches.

  2. You are skilled in self-soothing/regulation techniques because you use them on a frequent basis.

  3. You undertake a self-reflection practice to continually process and integrate your experiences to gain deeper awareness and insight about yourself.

  4. You have supports in your life such as trustworthy people, financial support, therapeutic support, housing that can maintain your stability during the destabilising process of disrupting the existing power dynamics.

The reason for these criteria is to ensure you have the mental, physical, emotional and financial capacity to focus your attention on actions you will need to take to facilitate change toward your desired outcomes.