Relational Intelligence: Working Wisely in Complex Systems

In many workplaces, doing your job well is not enough. What often determines whether you are included, sidelined or dismissed is how others interpret you, and how you respond to subtle acts of exclusion, competition and reputation management.

Relational intelligence is the ability to:

  • Notice shifts in tone, silence or behaviour that signal resistance or withdrawal

  • Recognise when offers of help or mentorship mask competition or control

  • Judge when it is effective to speak up, step back or move on

  • Protect your credibility without being cast as the problem

  • Handle rivalry and reputation risk while staying effective in your role

In complex or dysfunctional systems, these skills are essential for maintaining trust and influence at work.

That’s where my work begins.

SERVICES

I’m a consultant working with individuals and leaders navigating dysfunctional systems, complex power dynamics, and relational breakdowns.
Through strategic coaching, I help clients diagnose what’s really going on, shift their responses, and take clear action—whether that means disrupting harmful patterns, rebuilding influence, or preparing a clean exit.

I offer individual sessions, bespoke leadership development coaching program, webinars and workshops.

Individual Consulting Session

Focused coaching for high-stakes situations

For professionals dealing with workplace scapegoating, relational breakdowns, subtle bullying, or burnout in values-driven systems.

What we do:

  • Deconstruct the situation

  • Diagnose dysfunction and hidden dynamics

  • Explore realistic options for action, containment, or exit

$300 AUD / 60 mins
(Sessions via video | Available globally)

Check your eligibility to ensure this is the right service for you.

Strategic Disruption Session

Tactical coaching for navigating toxic environments

This 90-minute intensive is for professionals who are still inside dysfunctional systems—and need to interrupt harmful relational patterns without triggering backlash.

What we do:

  • Anticipate power plays and retaliation

  • Script actions that shift dynamics while protecting your integrity

  • Build a tactical plan that disrupts the pattern but safeguards your position

Eligibility: You must be working with a therapist concurrently
$500 AUD / 90 mins
(Not suitable for reflection work—this is planning and execution)

Check your eligibility to ensure this is the right service for you.

Relational Leadership Coaching Program

Short-term coaching for women leaders who are being misread, mistrusted, or dismissed despite being high performing and competent.

This program is for professionals who are experiencing a mismatch between their delivery and the effect it's having on others.

You’re doing the right things, saying the right things but it’s not landing the way you need it to. Instead, you’re triggering resistance, defensiveness, or being left out of key decisions.

This work is for you if:

  • You’re being misinterpreted in meetings or leadership spaces

  • Your attempts to be clear are met with silence, shutdown, or conflict

  • You’re told you're too direct, too much, too intimidating or not enough

  • You want to adjust how you come across without watering yourself down

This isn’t about posture tricks or power posing your way into being taken seriously. You’re already confident. That’s not the problem.

The problem is that your confidence is being misread as threat, dominance, coldness, or arrogance.

This isn’t about softening or shrinking. It’s about recalibrating your approach to relating and facilitating connection so others can actually hear you, trust you, and work with you.

You’ll learn how to put people at ease without betraying yourself and build the trust required for actual collaboration.

Program structure (3 x 90-minute sessions):

Session 1: Diagnose the mismatch

  • Identify where your intent and impact are diverging

  • Map how others are perceiving you and why

  • Understand what’s triggering mistrust, discomfort, or pushback

Session 2: Learn and apply adjustments

  • Shift how you’re communicating to reduce perceived threat

  • Learn practical group facilitation and informal mediation techniques to build safety and resolve tension

  • Start applying small adjustments that keep you in integrity and land better with others

Session 3: Practice and integrate

  • Practice applying the shifts using your real situations

  • Get feedback and coaching in real time

  • Finalise a practical strategy for moving forward that protects your leadership and impact

This work draws on evidence-informed frameworks and a decade of applied experience in facilitation, systems thinking, and relational practice. It’s not theoretical - it’s grounded, practical, and tailored to real leadership challenges.

3 x 90-minute sessions
$2,250 AUD total
(Sessions via video | Available globally)

This program is best suited to clients who are ready to apply insights and techniques in real-world situations and have support in place for emotional processing outside the sessions.

Check your eligibility to ensure this is the right service for you.

Webinar

Understanding and Navigating Workplace Scapegoating

Live 90-minute session
$79 AUD per person

Scapegoating in the workplace is rarely overt. It shows up as blame passed sideways, reputations quietly eroded, or “bad fit” whispers that never get named. If you’ve felt subtly excluded, mischaracterised, or like you're being punished for noticing too much, you’re not imagining it.

This live webinar is designed for professionals navigating unclear hostility, shifting alliances, or reputational unease at work—and want to understand what’s happening and what to do next.

What we’ll cover:

  • The psychology and function of scapegoating in workplace systems

  • Why high-integrity, competent people are often targeted

  • Early signs of role distortion and reputational slippage

  • What not to do (common mistakes that backfire)

  • Key strategies for protecting yourself and regaining agency

What’s included:

  • 75 minutes of expert teaching

  • 15 minutes of live Q&A

  • 7-day replay access

  • Optional follow-up offerings for deeper tactical support

Details:

Date: TBA
Time: TBA (AU/US timezone friendly)
Delivery: Live via video (link sent after registration)
Cost: $79 AUD

WORKSHOPS

Navigating Scapegoating at Work

A tactical workshop for professionals caught in blame, exclusion, or role distortion

Scapegoating isn't always overt—it often unfolds through subtle reputation damage, strategic silence, and power plays masked as feedback. This workshop is for professionals who suspect they’re being scapegoated or are trying to recover from it without internalising the shame or losing their footing.

What we’ll cover:

  • How to recognise scapegoating dynamics beyond the obvious

  • Why competent, values-driven people often become targets

  • Mapping the informal system: who’s protecting whom and why

  • Tactical ways to respond without escalating or self-betraying

  • Planning your next moves: stay, exit, or re-enter with clarity

Format: 3 hours | Small group (max 5)
Price: $850 AUD/pp

You’re doing feedback wrong workshop

Rethink the ritual. Recover real conversation.

There are countless books, frameworks, and philosophies on feedback—and none of them agree. The problem isn’t your feedback technique. It’s that feedback has become a forced, high-stakes ritual we all perform and dread.

In this 3-hour interactive workshop, you’ll break the spell of performative feedback, and learn how to engage in honest, productive dialogue without scripts, power plays, or self-censorship.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Understand the psychological impact of feedback dynamics

  • Explore frameworks that invite reflective listening and real dialogue

  • Practice skills that shift power-laden exchanges into natural conversations

  • Make feedback part of the culture—not a separate event

Price: $350 AUD/pp
Group size: 4–6 participants
Team/Org discounts available
Next dates: TBA